I have been reading "The Happiness Project" by Gretchen Rubin, and I really love the book. In the author's quest to feel happier, she tackled one area of resolutions each month for a year. After a month of focusing on being happier in her marriage, she came to the following conclusion:
"When thinking about happiness in marriage, you may have an almost irresistible impulse to focus on your spouse, to emphasize how he or she should change in order to boost your happiness. But the fact is, you can't change anyone but yourself...I love Jamie just the way he is. I can't make him to a better job of doing household chores, I can only stop myself from nagging--and that makes me happier. When you give up expecting a spouse to change (within reason), you lessen anger and resentment, and that creates a more loving atmosphere in marriage."
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