For the kids

One common misconception out there is that ending an unhappy marriage is better for the kids.  Research does not support this, because it is not true.  There are few cases where the children benefit from a split, and those are cases in which the child's safety is threatened by violence or addiction of a parent.  Barring those situations, staying together is the healthier situation for the children.  But rather than stay in an unhappy marriage (or end it with divorce), why not improve your marriage?  That is a win-win situation.  The children benefit from having both parents together in the home, and the parents benefit from having a happy relationship.  I know I'm making it sound overly simple, but that is the reality.  If your relationship is not what you want it to be, commit to changing.  Commit to never give up.  Realize that one of the first requirements of good parenting is loving the other parent.  If you want what is best for your children, love your spouse and make every effort to save your marriage.